I talk a lot about how people seem to be in such a hurry to rush into a dating relationship. I always emphasize how important it is to develop a strong friendship as a foundation before heading into romance. In the end, best friends make great marriages.
So for him, this is unquestionably a very delicate situation. Friendships are priceless and need protecting and nurturing so they will grow. In the end, you will need to communicate with each other and define what your relationship really is. After all, a good close friend of the opposite sex is priceless.
DAWSON: The decision to take a friendship to the next level, from friendship to a dating relationship, has to be a mutual decision. Both sides have to agree they want to go deeper with the other person.
But as I often say, these things have to be talked out. Unless they are talked out, there can be confusion and hurt feelings. So whoever brings up the subject has put themselves in somewhat of a vulnerable position. Yet, good friendships can endure these trying times. The best thing I can tell you is to be patient.
With a friendship based on honesty and trust, you will be able to face the challenge of being vulnerable. Do you have any ideas? What then should you do? I would encourage you to sit down together and make a list of the things you have been doing that have made your friendship so strong. Commit to keep doing them, and your relationship will automatically grow.
But be extremely careful about becoming very affectionate and sexual with each other. I have seen so many potentially great relationships ruined by the misuse of sex.
As someone once said, if you settle for cheap sex, you will never discover priceless love. Life is short. So be open and honest with your feelings, but be prepared for them not to be reciprocated. But with him knowing how you feel, you very well might open the door for him to start seeing you in a different, more romantic light.
Photo Credit: Duri from Mocup. I met this guy few years ago on chat. My guy friend of 25 years has confessed how hes really felt about me all this time and it blowing my mind. Hes very attractive. But I never really noticed how attractive intil he told me. We grew up in the same city but I moved away 10 years ago.
I fell in love with my best friend…and he didn’t feel the same way
Its great timing because he confessed his feelings only a few months after I decided to maybe move home. I adore him. Im just nervous about ruining the friendship if he changes his mind. Guys do that a lot. Not telling him is killing me and I hate it because the longer I make it go on the more he will be hurt.
I really appreciate that you care about your best friend and as well as his feelings. I would suggest that you need to discuss with him as early as possible about your feelings without hurting him. The longer time you take things will go worse. I am pretty sure if you discuss with him lovingly he will definitely understand your feelings and thoughts about this relationship.
Best of luck. Me and my guy friend are like really close and me being a trans gay dude and him not being gay both say we love eachother but like…. And I had said that when we say that it hurts my heart, and he agreed.
What does this mean. I agree that that is a confusing situation.
There is nothing wrong with that, even if it was a few months ago. He will probably see it as a good opportunity to further your friendship and to express himself. You owe it to yourself to find out what he meant, no matter what. Be communicative!
Falling in love with your best friend – what to do?
I think my best friend is still in love with me. What can I do to get him to back off? Keep reminding him you do not see him in the same light and he will eventually come to understand and will move on with his efforts with itherbwomwn. And, hopefully be there as a friend. Which is what you want. Hello I need some suggestns We know each other from last 2years through chats and recently we meet 2 times. Frst time he was with his frnds and 2nd time we both. Between our this 2 meet we have our daily converstan at that time he told i m his best friend and seeing my one pic he told he may had kissd me if i was infront of him, our phone calls had became common after our 1st meet and now he told he want me more than best friend for life time.
Does he loves me or he is just flirting? Save my name,and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Life is Messy.
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