What is the Islamic ruling for a Muslim boy and a Muslim girl, who go to the same college and they are deeply in love and want to be together? Can they date each other?
Islam teaches us to be truthful and realistic. Besides, the concept of love in Islam is very unique, when a Muslim loves something or somebody, it must be for the sake of Allah; the same applies to hatred. The romantic notions that occupy the mind of young people often have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved.
We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point. To give an example, the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on.
Yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. Romance and love simply do not result in an everlasting bond between two people.
In islam cases, romance and love die out very quickly when couple find themselves with the real world. The unrealistic expectation that before people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship. There is no room in Islam for illicit affairs or the Western vogue-word of boyfriend and girlfriend. All those stories of media and datings are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam. MARRIAGE Islam teaches us that marriage is the finest, purest and permissible relationship that should exist between a male and female; it should be the goal that they both have in mind.
Marriage is so serious and so important that it is clearly defined in the Quran and in the teachings of Islam by the prophet, peace be upon him. You may be surprised to learn the marriage of Divorce — is also mentioned and dealt with in very clear terms, to insure that it does not happen except with due consideration and proper representation and insurance of rights for both parties.
Quran offers many references concerning rights and limits in marriage, love and divorce. There is even an entire surah chapter named Al Talaq The Divorce. Marriage in Islam is a beautiful way for two people to bring together their families, heritage and culture for the purpose of bringing more little Muslims into the world, in love, commitment and dedication to Allah, His Book, His prophet, peace be upon him, and surrender to Him in islam Islam.
Love without marriage is mischief. There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the West. There is no dating or before in de facto relationship or trying each other out before committing to each other. There is to be no physical relationship whatsoever before marriage.
From an Islamic perspective, in choosing a partner, the most important factor that should be taken into consideration is Taqwa piety and consciousness of Allah. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, recommended the suitors to see each other before going through with marriage procedures.
That is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage and be expected to have a successful marital life, full of love and affection, when they know nothing of each other. The couple are permitted to look at each other.
Subscribe to podcast
The couple, however, are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people. The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests.
The most important characteristic is religious commitment. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i. Dear brother in Islam, we hope that the main points of the issue have become clear.
On what marriage would you like to choose your partner? If the lady you want to marry is religious, of good manners, and obeys Allah and His Messenger, and both of you want to please Allah in this world in order to earn reward in the Hereafter, then you have made a dating choice, and we ask Allah to fulfill your hopes and bring you together in a good way.
If she is not, then you should reconsider your choice. May Allah help you to do before He loves and what pleases Him! Islam does not allow islam to be forced into marriage. At the same time, the parents or guardians of the youth are responsible to find the best of matches for their children. This involves knowing first of all, your own child and second of all to know about the potential spouse, and also very important — to know the family and their ways, before recommending marriage.
Arranged marriages, on the before hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions, but rather on critical evaluation of the islam of the couple. That is why such marriage often proves successful. The West makes fun of the Islamic way of marriage, in particular arranged marriage.
Yet, the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship. This is because people are blinded by the physical attraction and thus do not choose the compatible partner. One can just bring mediators from marriage the family, i. But we have to emphasize that it is not lawful to compel a girl to marry someone she does not dating.
Salatul Istakharah the prayer for letting Allah to choose for youis the most important and most effective way to find what will make you the happiest and give you the best partner for your life here and in the Hereafter. Can We Date in Islam? Hajj Package Comparison.