Dating advice is often centered around meeting new, attractive people and getting them to go out with you. That's all well and good, but what if you're looking for something long-term? You might need to think about more than where to find women everywhere and how to take a hehot for your online dating profile. Chaya Weisberg, a matchmaker living in Jerusalemhas thought a lot about this stuff, and she has advice for everyone who never wants to look at Tinder again.
1. maintain your identity
It's a red flag if he doesn't eat the rice crispy treat. Photo: New Line Cinema. Does he call his mom? Is she nice to her sister? Weisberg points out that everyone is on their best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. But after a while, people often start treating their partners more like family members.
How a potential partner acts around family is a decent indicator of how they'll act toward you after the "I can't believe we're finally going out! There's a reason Jerry couldn't keep a girlfriend for more than a week.
In it for the long haul
Talking to a trusted individual or two is great, but Weisberg doesn't recommend sharing your dating details with everyone you pass on the street. You'll end up dropping a good guy or staying with a bad guy. If living simply is important to you, you might not want to date a guy who dreams of owning this place.
Photo: Courtesy photo. It's easy to get caught up in excitement with a new date without realizing that the person you're dating is a terrible match for you. This problem can be solved, like everything, with lists.
Weisberg recommends picking 15 qualities you'd want in a partner, then choosing five top ones. If the person you're dating doesn't have at least some of those top qualities, then maybe they're not the best idea. Sometimes, two great people just live on two different planets.
Photo: NASA. If you've got the long-term in mind, you can save a lot of time and stress by making sure you and your date can live the same life in the same place. If one of you is determined to move to New York to be a playwright, while the other one is dead-set on returning to his hometown of Tel Aviv, then you're going to have a problem. It's not just geography. If one of you wants to live in a log cabin, and the other has a deathly fear of dirt, then you might end up having to part ways. So you're better off figuring out whether your goals align from the start.
People want all kinds of different things out of their partners, but Weisberg considers two elements to be universally crucial.
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Yes, please! Isn't it awesome that we know the secrets to eternal love? Notice how they treat their families It's a red flag if he doesn't eat the rice crispy treat. Photo: New Line Cinema Does he call his mom? Photo: Courtesy photo It's easy to get caught up in excitement with a new date without realizing that the person you're dating is a terrible match for you.
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