9 ways being single can improve your life
Not long after that I got into a two-year relationship with a man who loved, yet cheated on me. It was a messy breakup. Recently some questions have bounced around in mind: What happened to me during those years? What did I get, gain, achieve in these two relationships? Why am I now alone? What will I do? How do I do things by myself?
It is a word that describes a person who is being single to live and for life without depending on others. So I started reading about being single, and interviewing other happy single people. I needed to find proven ways to be happy as a single adult woman. Finally, some me time. This is the time to reconnect with myself, a time where I can accept to myself, debating all the questions and answers that are life in my head.
Dear therapist: it’s hard to accept being single
This is the time of reflection. This is the time of acceptance and letting gowhich brings me to the second point…. Yes, I have fond memories of my exes, but that was in the past. I know I will always cherish those memories, but I need to stop clinging to them to live for today and plan for tomorrow.
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During those ten years, I lost love, a pregnancy, and my health. I truly believed I had lost everything.
Part of me feels afraid of this quick change. My heart has been bashed, bruised, and broken. Hopefully the next someone will treasure and treat my heart with love and respect. This felt like a slap in the face to wake me up. It reminded me that even with a broken heart, I am still standing.
There are still so many possibilities for me. I am lucky to have a supportive mother and sister. They are my sanity—my light. Spending time with them relaxes me in a way. I know for sure I can always share my happiness and sorrow with them.
I can always depend on them without feeling the slightest bit of guilt. Sometimes being in a relationship can make you lazy about developing yourself. You can get so comfortable that your goals take a back seat. When something bad happens, we tend to concentrate on the negatives, forgetting that there must be something positive hidden somewhere in the havoc.
I believe that everything in life is a process. When something dramatic and fast hits us, it will take time to process it and start over. As a newbie in singlehood I still have a lot to learn, understand, and explore. I sometimes need to be reminded to be grateful for what I have. As we all know, these words are easier said than practiced. She is currently in Perth, WA, studying and developing a new art project.
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De Lima. I was always in a relationship. So after ten years in relationships, I found myself alone. Now what? Where to start? I was so used to sharing everything.
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I was so used to having someone around. In my research, I learned some important truths about being single: 1. Being single gives you time to be by yourself, with yourself. This is the time of acceptance and letting gowhich brings me to the second point… 2.
Buddha said every day you are born again—that means new experiences and adventures for today! Change can sometimes be good. Sometimes change is the best thing for us, as it opens us up to new activities and environments.
Being single does not have to mean being afraid to love. Being single is a call to focus on yourself.
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Life is a balance. When there is darkness there will be light. I am starting over. You alone have to decide if you want that change.
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